One of my favorite instagrammers, Hailey Devine, posted that she is doing the #CHOOSINGTOLOVEMYSELF challenge last month, and asked her followers to join in.
The challenge is to go 18 days without saying a negative thing about yourself. Lately, I have been stressed, and very insecure with the way I look, so when I saw this post, I thought I would give it a try. I have decided to do the challenge for 22 days and end on my 22nd birthday. I know that this will be hard for me, so I decided to say and write down one positive thing that I love about myself each day, to cancel out the negative thoughts.
Day 1: I love how petite I am. Sometimes, it can be frustrating when I can’t find the clothes I want, because at certain stores, even size X-smalls drown me. But I am so happy that I do not have the opposite problem. Plus, sometimes I find cute clothes in the kids’ section, and I save money.
Day 2: I love that I am naturally blonde. I work at a beauty supply store, and just about every day I have a customer say “well I want to be as blonde as you, or I have a client who wants to be your color, but I don’t want to do too much damage.” People pay hundreds of dollars every six weeks to up-keep their blonde highlights, and every day I feel so lucky to be naturally blonde.
Day 3: I love my big heart. I care for people, and love them so deeply. The strong relationships I have with people make life so much better.
Day 4: I love my smile. Two years of braces was so worth it.
Day 5: I love my love for life, and that I am able to find beauty in the simplest things that constantly change the “bad days” to good ones.
Day 6: I love my blue eyes.
Day 7: I love my motivation to set goals, and achieve them.
Day 8: I love that I am not materialistic, and that I don’t need fancy things to make me happy.
Day 9: I love my health. Sometimes I get discouraged when I am running on a treadmill, because I get tired and feel out of shape, but hey at least I have a good-working heart, and a body that can run, climb mountains, and swim in oceans.
PS-Can I say that I am only half way through this challenge, and I can already feel a huge difference with the way I feel about myself?
Day 10: I love my healthy, young skin. I used to have horrible acne, and ever since I was on medication for it, I have loved my skin. I wear sun screen every single day to prevent wrinkles, and luckily, I have never had a stretch mark in my life. (knock on wood)
Day 11: I love my jobs. I know that this isn’t something about appearance, or personality, but I did choose the jobs that I have right now, and I love the decisions I made to get there. Both of my jobs are in fields that I love, and I love my co-workers like family.
Day 12: I love that I don’t need to be fake to feel beautiful. Yes, a lot of make up, fake eyelashes, and hair extensions do make me feel sexy and confident, and they are fun every once in a while, and more power to the women who wear them everyday. But I love that I have never had eyelash extensions, or been to a tanning bed, and I still like the way I look.
Day 13: I love that I don’t hold grudges, and my ability to forgive so easily. I know that everyone makes mistakes, I accept that and move on. Life is too short to stay mad at anyone.
Day 14: I love my honesty. I learned at a very young age that lying about something gets you hardly anywhere, and it makes you feel horrible. I’ve got in trouble sometimes with the truth, but it’s paid off a lot more than a lie would have.
Day 15: I love my relationship with my husband. I know how cheesy, and cliche? But honestly, it is hard to find a trust-worthy honest kind of love now a days. Marriage is something that we both work on, but it’s one of the things I know I am good at, and I love that about myself.
Day 16: I love my legs. Yes, some days I wish I had long legs like a super model, but other days when I am in a hurry, and need to shave, I am so thankful my legs are only as long as they are. They keep me moving, and constantly going, and I love them for that.
Day 17: I love my optimism. Sometimes my husband tells me that I am negative, but that is just because he is the one who hears me complain. I am always looking for the positive in a shitty situation, and always reminding myself that things could always be worse. Life is so much better when you surround yourself with positive feelings.
Day 18: I love that I take photos of everyone, everywhere, and everything. It is part of who I am. I know a lot of people who say they take enough photos, but I have never had that problem. I love time traveling through photographs.
Day 19: I have the best memory, and I love it. I can remember certain days in Pre School, I remember people’s birthdays and the littlest details of someone else’s stories.
Day 20: I love my curly hair. Some days it’s an annoying mess, but on the days that I feel lazy, I can wash it and go. And most of the time it works out. It also gives me a lot of volume when I flat iron it.
Day 21: I love my talents. I used to get so discouraged when I would watch people sing, or dance, or draw. I wish I had a talent like that. Why wasn’t I born talented? Or why didn’t I stick to playing the piano, or gymnastics? But I realized that you don’t need to be artsy to be talented. I am talented when it comes to expressing my feelings, planning out my weeks, catching up with old friends, or decorating my home. We all have certain passions and talents, and I am glad that I have finally noticed mine, and have learned to love them.
Day 22: I honestly love myself. I know that some days I will get discouraged with the things I say, or the way I look. We all do it, especially in this day of age, where we are constantly comparing ourselves and our lives to others, but I love who I am, and who I will become.
This challenge has opened my eyes so much. I know that I am still learning, I am still growing, and there is always room for improvement of who I am or how I feel about myself. Whenever I have a negative thought, or look in the mirror and want to cry, I will remind myself that I am strong, I am beautiful, and I am healthy, and life is way too short to want to be anyone else other than that person in the reflection. I hope you all learn to love yourself. and if you find it challenging to do so, I hope you try the #choosingtloveyourselfchallenge .
Thank you Hailey Devine for the inspiration, and my new found confidence.
I am so excited for year 22!
Onto the next adventure, Wren