Tips for stress & another new habit

Wow, I think August has been the longest month of my entire life. I think back to the things I was doing at the beginning of this month, and it feels like 10 years ago. I have been so extremely busy. To update you all,  I am helping plan a wedding that is on September 16, I am trying to finish school, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my family, and I am working 40-55 a week at the moment. My boss at each job had a baby, so they’ve been on maternity leave, we are understaffed at both of my jobs, and just about every one around me looks as if they’re running around with their heads cut off.

There has been days that when my alarm goes off, I want to cry. I want to escape reality just a little longer. I don’t want to have any more to do lists or places to be. But there are also days where I wake up and think “I am going to kill today, and it’s going to be great.” And it is. I know that all of my hard work will pay off, that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel, and in a couple months, I will look back and laugh at all of this stress I’ve had. I don’t take a single day for granted even if they are horrible ones.

Through all of this stress, I still made a new habit. It wasn’t an everyday habit, like I have done in the pass. But it was a healthy choice, and it’s something that will eventually make me a better person. I’ve made it a habit to wake up earlier. Like 6:30-7:00 earlier. (Compared to my 8:30-9:00) and I finally got a gym membership!! My days now start at 6:30 most of the time. I try to make it to the gym every single morning, but obviously, sometimes that doesn’t happen. Derek and I go together, and it is slowly becoming my favorite way to start the day. I have felt so much better through out the day, and waking up earlier has actually gave me more energy (and time) to get the things done that I need to do for the day.
I know that I handle stress differently than most people. I let it bottle up inside of me until I can’t take it anymore and then I either break down, or make myself sick. I know I have been so stressed, but I don’t let it affect my every day attitude or mood. I have also been working on things that help with my stress. Here’s a few tips that I have learned that personally help.

      1. Make time for yourself, and get away from the reality of that long to do list. Take a hot bath, go on a walk, turn your phone off for an hour, read a book, watch a few netflix episodes. Just distract yourself for a hour or 2.
      2. Spend time with the people who motivate you, compliment your hard work, and give you space. It is okay to tell people no, if they don’t understand, well that’s their own problem. The last thing you need to do is cater to everyone else’s needs when you already have enough on your own plate.
      3. Get away for the weekend. I took a short trip with my mom to go visit my nieces and sister in Salt Lake last weekend. It was so nice to have a change of scenery and refresh for the next week.

        4.Talk to people who care. Call your parents or grandparents, go to lunch with your best friend, cry to your spouse. They genuinely care about what you’re going through and sometimes venting or talking about stress is the best way to relieve it

5. Get outside. I had an extra hour to spend last week before work. Instead of browsing on my phone and waiting for time to pass, I took the long way to work and took in the beautiful view and fresh air of Snow Canyon Stare Pakr for a half hour. Derek and I also try to take Harvey to the dog park every night for about a hour. Being surrounded by happy dogs while watching the sunset every night helps me!

6.If you can afford it, have a little retail therapy. When we were in Salt Lake, we took a trip to IKEA. Buying furniture and home decor has always been something that makes me extremely happy, so I pulled out the credit card and did just that. I’ve been working so hard lately, so I deserve to spoil myself. And you do to!

7. Exercise! I know I know, you just don’t have time for that. I don’t run a mile every day, and I don’t even exercise every single day. But I do stretch every morning, and most of the time I make it to the gym. Get your body moving, even if it’s a short walk. Your brain needs those endorphins!

8.Make time for the people that matter. Take your grandma to lunch, go on a date night with your spouse, take 20 minutes to call your best friend to catch up. Let them know that you’re busy, but you’re thinking about them. I am a big believer that you get what you give. If you show them love and support, they will do the same, and sometimes that’s all you need.

I know that with the month changing, not many things will change in my every day life. I know that I will still be stressed in September, but I have learned to work with it.Waking up early is just another new habit that has helped me towards my goals, and stress is something that just comes with growing up and working hard towards being that person I’ve always wanted to be. Don’t take a single day for granted, stay happy, and remember to put yourself first. You all deserve it!

Onto the next adventure, Wren


Less Than 24 Hours in San Francisco

Derek and I were almost tired of traveling by the time we arrived in San Francisco. By then, we had been on our road trip for a whole week, and we had spent about 35 hours in the car.

We checked into our hotel, and couldn’t help but laugh when we saw our room. I booked one of the cheapest hotels I could find in downtown San Francisco, and you definitely get what you pay for!It was pretty much a hostel. We even had to share the shower and toilet with our whole floor. I had it booked for two nights, but we woke up in the morning, decided we couldn’t stay there any longer, and checked out early. It’s definitely a funny story to tell, but I learned my lesson. (1 star hotels really mean 1 star hotels!)

Since we only had less than 24 hours to see this beautiful city, we made the most of it and saw all of the things we really wanted to see. We went to the beach, Fisherman’s Wharf, and China town. We saw the golden gate bridge, the painted ladies, and the full house house. I am sad that we were rushed, tired, and just wanted our own bed (and shower) while we were there,  but it gives us an excuse to go back. (For a longer amount of time in a better hotel.)

For as long as I can remember, I have wanted to see the golden gate bridge. I couldn’t believe that I was actually seeing it with my own eyes. I almost cried when we drove under it. I love the feeling of crossing things off my bucket list, and especially having someone who constantly wants to do it with me.

I love this foggy, beautiful charming city. We will be back San Francisco!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

Dursteler Abode Renovation

The other day I got frustrated because my furniture wasn’t doing what I wanted it to do. I got a little upset and I was in the mood to throw everything away, and start over. Poor Derek comes home almost every week to a rearranged, reorganized, re-designed house.

I  took a little break from my weekly re-designing mood to sit down and finish this video. My whole mind set instantly changed. Our home may not have everything I want it to have, and I am starting to accept that it will most likely never feel complete, but that’s okay. Every time I walk into a room, I see how much work we’ve done, how many memories we’ve made in these past four months, and how far we have came with our renovations.

I am constantly getting compliments on our home from strangers, and I appreciate it so much. I just want you all to know that it is not finished, and it is no where near “oh my gosh your house is perfect!” Our bathrooms are still under renovation and I have a long wish list of new furniture I need to make all of my visions come to life, but that is the fun that comes along with owning a house!

I love our Dursteler Abode, and I am so happy I have this video to remind me how much I love it, and how much TLC we’ve put into it. Also, I want to say thank you to everyone who helped us with our remodeling and renovations, whether you’re in this video or not, you know who you are and we appreciate it and love you so much!

Thanks for watching, Enjoy!


Onto the next adventure, Wren

Keep Portland Weird

Just like most of our stops on our road trip, we didn’t have much time in Portland, but we made the best of it! We arrived in Portland in the afternoon, and we decided to go straight to Multnomah Falls. For those of you who don’t know, Multnomah is the second tallest waterfall in the U.S. and the tallest in the state of Oregon.

I have seen plenty of pictures of this beautiful place, and have always wanted to see it for myself. It was amazing! We only stayed in Portland one night and two “half-days”, but we made it to Voodoo Donuts, Powell’s Books, The Rose Garden, a few breweries, and plenty of amazing restaurants.

Portland was filled with incredible architecture, fresh flowers, book stores, coffee shops, the most friendly people, and the best food Derek and I have ever ate. In the short 24 hours that we spent in this beautiful city, we fell in love with it.

Until next time, Portland!

Onto the next adventure, Wren