Wow, I think August has been the longest month of my entire life. I think back to the things I was doing at the beginning of this month, and it feels like 10 years ago. I have been so extremely busy. To update you all, I am helping plan a wedding that is on September 16, I am trying to finish school, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my family, and I am working 40-55 a week at the moment. My boss at each job had a baby, so they’ve been on maternity leave, we are understaffed at both of my jobs, and just about every one around me looks as if they’re running around with their heads cut off.
There has been days that when my alarm goes off, I want to cry. I want to escape reality just a little longer. I don’t want to have any more to do lists or places to be. But there are also days where I wake up and think “I am going to kill today, and it’s going to be great.” And it is. I know that all of my hard work will pay off, that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel, and in a couple months, I will look back and laugh at all of this stress I’ve had. I don’t take a single day for granted even if they are horrible ones.
Through all of this stress, I still made a new habit. It wasn’t an everyday habit, like I have done in the pass. But it was a healthy choice, and it’s something that will eventually make me a better person. I’ve made it a habit to wake up earlier. Like 6:30-7:00 earlier. (Compared to my 8:30-9:00) and I finally got a gym membership!! My days now start at 6:30 most of the time. I try to make it to the gym every single morning, but obviously, sometimes that doesn’t happen. Derek and I go together, and it is slowly becoming my favorite way to start the day. I have felt so much better through out the day, and waking up earlier has actually gave me more energy (and time) to get the things done that I need to do for the day.
I know that I handle stress differently than most people. I let it bottle up inside of me until I can’t take it anymore and then I either break down, or make myself sick. I know I have been so stressed, but I don’t let it affect my every day attitude or mood. I have also been working on things that help with my stress. Here’s a few tips that I have learned that personally help.
- Make time for yourself, and get away from the reality of that long to do list. Take a hot bath, go on a walk, turn your phone off for an hour, read a book, watch a few netflix episodes. Just distract yourself for a hour or 2.
- Spend time with the people who motivate you, compliment your hard work, and give you space. It is okay to tell people no, if they don’t understand, well that’s their own problem. The last thing you need to do is cater to everyone else’s needs when you already have enough on your own plate.
- Get away for the weekend. I took a short trip with my mom to go visit my nieces and sister in Salt Lake last weekend. It was so nice to have a change of scenery and refresh for the next week.
4.Talk to people who care. Call your parents or grandparents, go to lunch with your best friend, cry to your spouse. They genuinely care about what you’re going through and sometimes venting or talking about stress is the best way to relieve it
5. Get outside. I had an extra hour to spend last week before work. Instead of browsing on my phone and waiting for time to pass, I took the long way to work and took in the beautiful view and fresh air of Snow Canyon Stare Pakr for a half hour. Derek and I also try to take Harvey to the dog park every night for about a hour. Being surrounded by happy dogs while watching the sunset every night helps me!
6.If you can afford it, have a little retail therapy. When we were in Salt Lake, we took a trip to IKEA. Buying furniture and home decor has always been something that makes me extremely happy, so I pulled out the credit card and did just that. I’ve been working so hard lately, so I deserve to spoil myself. And you do to!
7. Exercise! I know I know, you just don’t have time for that. I don’t run a mile every day, and I don’t even exercise every single day. But I do stretch every morning, and most of the time I make it to the gym. Get your body moving, even if it’s a short walk. Your brain needs those endorphins!
8.Make time for the people that matter. Take your grandma to lunch, go on a date night with your spouse, take 20 minutes to call your best friend to catch up. Let them know that you’re busy, but you’re thinking about them. I am a big believer that you get what you give. If you show them love and support, they will do the same, and sometimes that’s all you need.
I know that with the month changing, not many things will change in my every day life. I know that I will still be stressed in September, but I have learned to work with it.Waking up early is just another new habit that has helped me towards my goals, and stress is something that just comes with growing up and working hard towards being that person I’ve always wanted to be. Don’t take a single day for granted, stay happy, and remember to put yourself first. You all deserve it!
Onto the next adventure, Wren