In this day in age, it is so hard to accept our bodies how they are. Especially if you are a woman. Everyday I hear at least one woman or girl complain about their appearance. “I wish my hair was longer, I wish I had your lips, I need to lose weight, I need to change this and that and that and this and blah blah blah” It’s sad..
In our society today, it is so easy to be upset about the way we look. We are constantly comparing ourselves to other woman on the internet, and it’s so hard to not feel insecure. If all my dreams were to come true, my hair would look like Amber Fillerup’s and I would have Alexis Ren’s body.
But wouldn’t we all?….
Why is it that we have beauty these standards and the way that we define “perfect” in our head? Who decided that we should all strive to look a certain way in order to be “beautiful?” And how did we as a society, or a world accept these beauty standards? If we were all perfectly flawless, or what most people call “beautiful” there would be no such thing as raw beauty. We would all be the same.
Instead of calling certain girls perfect or flawless, we should call them lucky. That’s wonderful that they got amazing genes with thick hair and long legs. It’s also amazing when people are lucky enough to fall in love, or travel the world, or graduate from their dream college. I probably won’t ever be lucky enough to win the lottery, be famous, or have certain talents, and I have accepted those. Why is it so hard for us to accept that we won’t ever look like a certain person? Because that’s all it really is, it’s luck.
If I could change things about myself I would, we all would. But we have to stop thinking of the person we want to become, and love the crap out of ourselves right now! Maybe one day I’ll find the motivation to stop eating quesadillas and work really hard for abs, maybe one day I’ll quit having the urge to chop my hair off so that it will grow long, and maybe one day I’ll save enough money to “fix” my flat chest, but I need to stop thinking “maybe one day” or “I wish I had..” and start loving the person I am right now, flaws and all. And so do you!
Here’s an inspirational quote from a beautiful stranger that I follow on Instagram.
“Body. Body. Body. The only thing that gals are taught that matters right?! Well. Hello. Here’s a gal that’s happy in herself, in her body, her hair and crappy nails, her books, in her learning and in her mind! If you are feeling good, make everyone feel it around you. Your mind is strong, your body is in good health. It’s uplifting to have self love around you. This gal is happy in her mind, soul, AND body. And isn’t that mighty fine? You rock whatever the hell you got on, fully covered or nothing at all! Feel good within yourself, accept one thing a day, it may be only baby steps, your thoughts control your happiness. Release healthy body and mind, positive thoughts, and others will follow. Learning to love yourself can be a task, but it doesn’t have to be. Rock those thighs baby, that ass and boobs! As small as you think they are, love them with all your might. Self love is so so so so important. It teaches us truth. Truth and love about how beautiful we really are. POSITIVE BODY IMAGE, NO EXPECTATIONS, LOVE YOU, AND YOUR BODY, COMPARISON FIXES NOTHING, INDULGE IN YOU DARLING AND APPRECIATE YOURSELF.”
Instagram: tiahendricks (I recommend following her)
Instead of comparing my body to her’s in the flawless mirror selfie she posted, I read the caption over and over again, and simply thanked her for it in a comment. And that alone is already better than what I was doing a week ago. Self love is hard, it’s a long journey, but I am finally realizing how important it is. We all need to change our mindsets, stop comparing, and start accepting.
Onto the next adventure, Wren