Tips for stress & another new habit

Wow, I think August has been the longest month of my entire life. I think back to the things I was doing at the beginning of this month, and it feels like 10 years ago. I have been so extremely busy. To update you all,  I am helping plan a wedding that is on September 16, I am trying to finish school, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my family, and I am working 40-55 a week at the moment. My boss at each job had a baby, so they’ve been on maternity leave, we are understaffed at both of my jobs, and just about every one around me looks as if they’re running around with their heads cut off.

There has been days that when my alarm goes off, I want to cry. I want to escape reality just a little longer. I don’t want to have any more to do lists or places to be. But there are also days where I wake up and think “I am going to kill today, and it’s going to be great.” And it is. I know that all of my hard work will pay off, that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel, and in a couple months, I will look back and laugh at all of this stress I’ve had. I don’t take a single day for granted even if they are horrible ones.

Through all of this stress, I still made a new habit. It wasn’t an everyday habit, like I have done in the pass. But it was a healthy choice, and it’s something that will eventually make me a better person. I’ve made it a habit to wake up earlier. Like 6:30-7:00 earlier. (Compared to my 8:30-9:00) and I finally got a gym membership!! My days now start at 6:30 most of the time. I try to make it to the gym every single morning, but obviously, sometimes that doesn’t happen. Derek and I go together, and it is slowly becoming my favorite way to start the day. I have felt so much better through out the day, and waking up earlier has actually gave me more energy (and time) to get the things done that I need to do for the day.
I know that I handle stress differently than most people. I let it bottle up inside of me until I can’t take it anymore and then I either break down, or make myself sick. I know I have been so stressed, but I don’t let it affect my every day attitude or mood. I have also been working on things that help with my stress. Here’s a few tips that I have learned that personally help.

      1. Make time for yourself, and get away from the reality of that long to do list. Take a hot bath, go on a walk, turn your phone off for an hour, read a book, watch a few netflix episodes. Just distract yourself for a hour or 2.
      2. Spend time with the people who motivate you, compliment your hard work, and give you space. It is okay to tell people no, if they don’t understand, well that’s their own problem. The last thing you need to do is cater to everyone else’s needs when you already have enough on your own plate.
      3. Get away for the weekend. I took a short trip with my mom to go visit my nieces and sister in Salt Lake last weekend. It was so nice to have a change of scenery and refresh for the next week.

        4.Talk to people who care. Call your parents or grandparents, go to lunch with your best friend, cry to your spouse. They genuinely care about what you’re going through and sometimes venting or talking about stress is the best way to relieve it

5. Get outside. I had an extra hour to spend last week before work. Instead of browsing on my phone and waiting for time to pass, I took the long way to work and took in the beautiful view and fresh air of Snow Canyon Stare Pakr for a half hour. Derek and I also try to take Harvey to the dog park every night for about a hour. Being surrounded by happy dogs while watching the sunset every night helps me!


6.If you can afford it, have a little retail therapy. When we were in Salt Lake, we took a trip to IKEA. Buying furniture and home decor has always been something that makes me extremely happy, so I pulled out the credit card and did just that. I’ve been working so hard lately, so I deserve to spoil myself. And you do to!

7. Exercise! I know I know, you just don’t have time for that. I don’t run a mile every day, and I don’t even exercise every single day. But I do stretch every morning, and most of the time I make it to the gym. Get your body moving, even if it’s a short walk. Your brain needs those endorphins!

8.Make time for the people that matter. Take your grandma to lunch, go on a date night with your spouse, take 20 minutes to call your best friend to catch up. Let them know that you’re busy, but you’re thinking about them. I am a big believer that you get what you give. If you show them love and support, they will do the same, and sometimes that’s all you need.

I know that with the month changing, not many things will change in my every day life. I know that I will still be stressed in September, but I have learned to work with it.Waking up early is just another new habit that has helped me towards my goals, and stress is something that just comes with growing up and working hard towards being that person I’ve always wanted to be. Don’t take a single day for granted, stay happy, and remember to put yourself first. You all deserve it!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

 

7th New Habit

I can’t get over the fact that July is already over. This year has been so exciting for us, especially the last couple of months. But I am so ready for fall time, and for this heat to go away!

Since we were traveling most of the month of July, I had to choose a new habit that I could do at home, and on the days that we were away from home. I decided to pick one of my hobbies, and make it a habit to do it every day. I kept journals from elementary school to high school, but eventually I got tired of writing down the things I did every single day. I got bored with it, and would just write down things just because I felt like I needed to, not because I wanted to. That’s when I resorted to blogging instead. I liked the idea of being able to share my experiences with the world, and include all of the pictures I take.

I got two new journal prompt books as gifts. One of them is a five year memory book and one is another one that I only write one line every day. Some times I write the things I did that day, some times I write about my feelings, and other days I just write about simple things, like the weather.

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I love this book because I can easily look back to last year and compare how much has changed, and how much I have grown in the past year. I have made it a habit to write in this book every night before bed, so that I don’t have to look back at my calendar and play catch up.

The second book is a journal, but instead of just writing about the things I did that day, each page has a writing prompt on it, so I always know exactly what to write about. I don’t write in this one every day, but I love to pick it up when i get my writing urge, or need some extra inspiration that day.

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Writing has always been my favorite escape. I’m so thankful to have such easy access to it, whether it’s typing about my life on my computer, or writing in my journals. One day I will look back on all of it, and laugh, smile, and maybe even cry. I know that one day I will be so happy that I documented my whole life, and that I will eventually be able to share it with my children, and grandchildren. Happy writing friends!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

 

5th Healthy Habit

For the month of May, I decided to make a new habit, and also bring a new hobby back. Isn’t it funny how we grow up and grow out of old hobbies, but the second we start doing that hobby again, we remember how much we enjoy it?

 

When I was in first grade, I was the number one reader out of the whole first grade class. I was reading books that were on a fourth grade level, I even read a book for the talent show. (HAHA, what a nerd.) In sixth grade, my sister and I would walk to the library and fill our wagon with a stack of books to read that week. We would finish 3-4 books a week! We obviously had a lot of free time.

 

One day I realized that reading articles and social media updates on my phone weren’t fulfilling my love for reading, so this year I made it a goal of mine to read more books.This month, I made it a habit to read at least a chapter every single night before bed. I picked a book back up in February, and made it a nightly habit the beginning of May. I am just about finished with my fourth book this year.
I am currently reading ‘What Alice Forgot’ by Liane Moriarty. My boss gave it to me as a birthday present, and I absolutely love it. I would recommend it to anyone. They are even making a movie out of it in 2017.

 

Instead of scrolling on my phone and reading about other peoples’ lives every night before bed, I am working my brain, imagining stories, and exercising my eyes. I have slept so much better this month. Reading clears my head and makes all of the stress from the day disappear. I am so excited for all of the books that I will soon read, and all of the new things I will learn from them. I love all of my five new habits, but this one is my favorite so far. I feel like my complete self with a book in my hand, so here’s to picking up old hobbies! I am so glad I reminded myself how much I love reading,  I’d be lost without it.

Onto the next adventure, Wren

4th New Habit

Well! We finally got our computer up and running in our new home. I’ve missed blogging a lot. I am so excited to share with you all the ideas and posts that I’ve came up with. I am currently in the process of updating my blog,  and making it look better. I am trying to figure out why my pictures upload blurry, and I will eventually be linking my instagram, twitter, and pinterest on here. Thanks for being patient, showing the support, and following along while I am still learning. I appreciate it a lot, and I am so excited for what’s to come!

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I think April was the one of the craziest months of my life. Between finishing our house, Derek’s birthday, working full time, and FINALLY moving in to our house, it was so messy, but so exciting, and beautiful! I love this time of year. I love all of the celebrations and new beginnings that Spring has to offer.

Between it all, I stuck to my “new years resolution” and made a new habit for the month. It’s crazy to me that I now do four (going on five) new things daily that I didn’t do back before January. By the end of the year I will have TWELVE new healthy habits. It takes 21 days to make a new habit, and it’s never too late to start!

My new habit for the month of April was pretty simple, and something I’ve always tried to work on, but didn’t make the time for. I started flossing my teeth! (haha) I know so simple, but something we “don’t have time to do” in the morning. We’ve all been there.

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After growing up with (EXTREMELY) crooked teeth, wearing braces for two years, and a retainer for three, my teeth, and smile have always been one of the things I get compliments on. I realized that I needed to start taking better care of them, if I wanted those compliments to last.

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I can’t believe the difference I have noticed in the health of my gums, and teeth. It’s amazing what 30 seconds a day can do to your health, beauty, and confidence! Even though it took me 22 years to make this a daily habit, I know this is one habit that I will never give up.

Now that I have our computer up, and my own little corner, in our own office, in our OWN home, I will be posting a lot more.

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POSTS COMING SOON: kitchen cabinet DIY tutorial, fireplace DIY tutorial, and once everything is settled, OUR HOME TOUR.

Thanks for following along.

Onto the next adventure, Wren

 

 

 

 

New Habit for March

Wow! I realized it was already April in the middle of planning my best friend’s bridal shower, my home renovation, and working every day this week. Since it is already the 3rd, I finally found time to share with you all my new habit that I have been working on in March.

At the beginning of march I started stretching every morning. I have always loved yoga, stretching, and working on my flexibility. I would do it very often, but in March I made it a habit to do it every single day, and I can’t believe how much better I feel.

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There were days that I went to a hour yoga class at my gym, and other days that I was rushing out the door, so I only stretched for five minutes, but I did it. Between my birthday week, buying a house, starting our renovation, and being extremely busy with friends and family, I did it.

It is the perfect time for me to focus on my breathing, my body, and think about what I want to accomplish that day. With time, I want to practice yoga each morning for at least 30 minutes, but hey, here’s a start.

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PS. Sorry about the crappy picture quality, these were taken in a basement, with self timer. I will eventually make a post of my whole stretching sequence (when I have better lighting, and my husband isn’t too busy to be my photographer)

Also, I will be posting plenty of pictures of our home renovation, so far, very very soon!

Thanks for following along.

Onto the next adventure, Wren

#CHOOSINGTOLOVEMYSELFCHALLENGE

One of my favorite instagrammers, Hailey Devine, posted that she is doing the #CHOOSINGTOLOVEMYSELF challenge last month, and asked her followers to join in.

 

The challenge is to go 18 days without saying a negative thing about yourself. Lately, I have been stressed, and very insecure with the way I look, so when I saw this post, I thought I would give it a try. I have decided to do the challenge for 22 days and end on my 22nd birthday. I know that this will be hard for me, so I decided to say and write down one positive thing that I love about myself each day, to cancel out the negative thoughts.

Day 1: I love how petite I am. Sometimes, it can be frustrating when I can’t find the clothes I want, because at certain stores, even size X-smalls drown me. But I am so happy that I do not have the opposite problem. Plus, sometimes I find cute clothes in the kids’ section, and I save money.

Day 2: I love that I am naturally blonde. I work at a beauty supply store, and just about every day I have a customer say “well I want to be as blonde as you, or I have a client who wants to be your color, but I don’t want to do too much damage.” People pay hundreds of dollars every six weeks to up-keep their blonde highlights, and every day I feel so lucky to be naturally blonde.

Day 3: I love my big heart. I care for people, and love them so deeply. The strong relationships I have with people make life so much better.

Day 4: I love my smile. Two years of braces was so worth it.

Day 5: I love my love for life, and that I am able to find beauty in the simplest things that constantly change the “bad days” to good ones.

Day 6: I love my blue eyes.

Day 7: I love my motivation to set goals, and achieve them.

Day 8: I love that I am not materialistic, and that I don’t need fancy things to make me happy.

Day 9: I love my health. Sometimes I get discouraged when I am running on a treadmill, because I get tired and feel out of shape, but hey at least I have a good-working heart, and a body that can run, climb mountains, and swim in oceans.

PS-Can I say that I am only half way through this challenge, and I can already feel a huge difference with the way I feel about myself?

Day 10: I love my healthy, young skin. I used to have horrible acne, and ever since I was on medication for it, I have loved my skin. I wear sun screen every single day to prevent wrinkles, and luckily, I have never had a stretch mark in my life. (knock on wood)

Day 11: I love my jobs. I know that this isn’t something about appearance, or personality, but I did choose the jobs that I have right now, and I love the decisions I made to get there. Both of my jobs are in fields that I love, and I love my co-workers like family.

Day 12: I love that I don’t need to be fake to feel beautiful. Yes, a lot of make up, fake eyelashes, and hair extensions do make me feel sexy and confident, and they are fun every once in a while, and more power to the women who wear them everyday. But I love that I have never had eyelash extensions, or been to a tanning bed, and I still like the way I look.

Day 13: I love that I don’t hold grudges, and my ability to forgive so easily. I know that everyone makes mistakes, I accept that and move on. Life is too short to stay mad at anyone.

Day 14: I love my honesty. I learned at a very young age that lying about something gets you hardly anywhere, and it makes you feel horrible. I’ve got in trouble sometimes with the truth, but it’s paid off a lot more than a lie would have.

Day 15: I love my relationship with my husband. I know how cheesy, and cliche? But honestly, it is hard to find a trust-worthy honest kind of love now a days. Marriage is something that we both work on, but it’s one of the things I know I am good at, and I love that about myself.

Day 16: I love my legs. Yes, some days I wish I had long legs like a super model, but other days when I am in a hurry, and need to shave, I am so thankful my legs are only as long as they are. They keep me moving, and constantly going, and I love them for that.

Day 17: I love my optimism. Sometimes my husband tells me that I am negative, but that is just because he is the one who hears me complain. I am always looking for the positive in a shitty situation, and always reminding myself that things could always be worse. Life is so much better when you surround yourself with positive feelings.

Day 18: I love that I take photos of everyone, everywhere, and everything. It is part of who I am. I know a lot of people who say they take enough photos, but I have never had that problem. I love time traveling through photographs.

Day 19: I have the best memory, and I love it. I can remember certain days in Pre School, I remember people’s birthdays and the littlest details of someone else’s stories.

Day 20: I love my curly hair. Some days it’s an annoying mess, but on the days that I feel lazy, I can wash it and go. And most of the time it works out. It also gives me a lot of volume when I flat iron it.

Day 21: I love my talents. I used to get so discouraged when I would watch people sing, or dance, or draw. I wish I had a talent like that. Why wasn’t I born talented? Or why didn’t I stick to playing the piano, or gymnastics? But I realized that you don’t need to be artsy to be talented. I am talented when it comes to expressing my feelings, planning out my weeks, catching up with old friends, or decorating my home. We all have certain passions and talents, and I am glad that I have finally noticed mine, and have learned to love them.

Day 22: I honestly love myself. I know that some days I will get discouraged with the things I say, or the way I look. We all do it, especially in this day of age, where we are constantly comparing ourselves and our lives to others, but I love who I am, and who I will become.

This challenge has opened my eyes so much. I know that I am still learning, I am still growing, and there is always room for improvement of who I am or how I feel about myself. Whenever I have a negative thought, or look in the mirror and want to cry, I will remind myself that I am strong, I am beautiful, and I am healthy, and life is way too short to want to be anyone else other than that person in the reflection. I hope you all learn to love yourself. and if you find it challenging  to do so, I hope you try the #choosingtloveyourselfchallenge .

Thank you Hailey Devine for the inspiration, and my new found confidence.

I am so excited for year 22!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

2nd New Habit

I don’t know how many of you read my post last month about my 12 new habits, but instead of making new year’s resolutions this year, I decided to make a healthy new habit each month to improve my lifestyle. Since it is the last day of February, I am going to share with you all what I have been working on.

Derek and I decided that we wanted to buy a home at the end of November. To do so, we needed to start saving money! Derek has always been great with budgets, and numbers,  so this was easy for him, I on the other hand enjoy spending my paycheck as soon as my bills are paid, which leaves me with nothing extra.

This month I decided to work on my personal budget, and work hard towards saving my money. Every morning, I check my bank account, and enter in my income and money spent on the day before into an excel spreadsheet that I have organized into categories. (Food, Bills, Fun) Sometimes, like bill day, I spend a lot of money, and other days I don’t spend any. Watching my money closely, and knowing exactly where it’s going has helped me not carelessly spend on things that I don’t really need.

For example: I spent $100.00 on groceries last week, and instead of spending money on food for lunch, I made a lunch for work. Why would I spend more money on food if I just barely spent $100.00 on the food in my fridge? This is something I would not ask myself last month. Instead, I would think “I have the money to spend, so I might as well.”

I am so thankful for my math genius husband who has helped me with my budget plan, and I am so excited to see how this new habit will affect my lifestyle.

Tomorrow is a new month, which means a new habit. I can’t wait to get started!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

 

 

12 New Habits

Hi friends, family, and followers! Thanks for stopping by my new and improved blog. I am so excited to finally have an (EASY TO USE) place where I can share all of my stories, adventures, videos, photos, and posts. I started to get frustrated with my other blog, because it wouldn’t allow me to do everything that I wanted to do, so onto new things!

I decided to write my first post about the changes I have been making this year. Even though it’s six weeks into the new year, it’s never too late to start your resolutions, or in my case, to share them.

This year I decided to do something different when it came to “new year, new me” goals. Instead of making a long list of all of the things I wanted to accomplish this year, I decided to make one healthy habit each month. I saw a blogger post on Instagram that she was doing this, and I thought it was a great idea! They say it takes 21 days to make a habit stick, and well we have about 30 days each month, so I decided to give it a try.

In January, I focused on cooking. I had a horrible habit of wanting to go out and spend money every time I felt hungry, instead of looking in my fridge or pantry and cooking what I already had. I hated this habit, so I broke it.  I started looking at recipes on Pinterest, I made weekly meal plans, shopped for all of the ingredients, and Derek and I cooked dinner just about every night.  I used to think cooking was so complicated, but then I realized that I was just lazy, and making it complicated. If Derek and I got invited to go out to lunch or dinner, we wouldn’t deny it, but eating at home and spending time in the kitchen together is one of my new favorite things.

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We are saving a lot of money, spending more quality time together as a family, instead of with random strangers, and servers who interrupt our conversations, and, it is easier to watch what we eat when we cook it ourselves, so we feel a lot better.

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I am excited to share with you all what I have been working on for the month of February, but it’s only been 8 days, and it’s not a habit YET, so I will wait. I am so excited to see all of the changes I make this year to improve myself, and my lifestyle. Remember, it’s never too late to start a habit, or make a goal. And it’s never too late to become the type of person you want to be.

Thanks for following along.

Onto the next adventure, Wren