A Farewell to my Early 20’s

Whenever I hear an older person talk about their best time of their life, it is most of the time “without a doubt, their 20s.”  In our 20s, we’re young, we’re allowed to be selfish, we’re usually in the best shape of our life. We are learning who we are and what we want, and how we want to live out the rest of our lives. The world seems like a whole new place filled with new memories, experiences, close relationships, and celebrations. So it’s no question, why this is usually the answer.

I remember finally turning 20 years old and thinking to myself, I am going to make these next 10 years the best years of my entire life, and live every day like it is something to be celebrated. I learned to subconsciously teach myself that these are my “good old days” and that one day, I too, will be a much older person, talking about how great my 20s once were.

Now that I’ve officially reached the age of 25 (birthday blog post coming soon) and am the middle of this wonderful decade of my life, I understand what all of those people were talking about and why our 20s are usually “our best days”.

Here’s a little nostalgic farewell to my early 20s, with photos from my birthdays. (you know for me to look back on):

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20 years old:

  • I traveled out of state alone for the first time without family, just with Derek.
  • I became friends with so many great people, who would eventually feel like family. (shout out to our continuing friendship!)
  • Derek got down on one knee and asked me to spend the rest of my life with him.

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21 years old:

  • After 6 years, I finally made it official, had my dream wedding, and became Derek’s wife.
  • I found a lot of new passions such as teaching, yoga, and event planning.
  • Derek and I traveled out of country for our first time together.

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22 years old:

  • Derek and I bought our first house, and renovated it for 3 months.
  • We adopted our Harvey boy, and became dog parents.
  • We took a 10 day road trip, and I fell in love with the Pacific Northwest.

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23 years old:

  • Derek and I moved to the other side of the world for a semester, and crossed off two more countries together.
  • I rode on a total of 16 airplanes, and fell in love with this world.
  • I put my focus on accepting the person I was, and thought a lot about who I wanted to become.

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24 years old:

  • I spent a week in my fifth country with some of my favorite people.
  • I got promoted at work, to my dream position, as an event coordinator.
  • I had a lot of growing pains, and struggled with mental health issues, but became genuinely happy, and found self love.

Every year seems to get better than the last. Obviously, this isn’t the case for everyone, but I do believe that the last 5 years of my life wouldn’t have been as great as they were, without the mind set I’ve taught myself to have. I’ve said yes to new opportunities, I’ve reached out to make my connections with people deeper, I’ve learned that my comfort zone only exists in my mind, I’ve dug deep, and got in tune with myself and my life. And I’ve lived every single day, and every single moment knowing that I am going to miss it one day.

So, farewell early 20’s!

25, and the next 5 years have a lot to live up to, but I am planning on continuing the rest of my life like I am currently living in my “good old days.”  And that alone, makes me so excited for the adventure, growth, and memories they will bring.

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Onto the next adventure, Wren

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2018 Highlights- Video

I know it’s already the 4th day of 2019, but I hope you all had a happy New Year! I’ve always loved this holiday, but is there a holiday that I don’t like?  😉

Some of us treat it like just another day, some of us set new goals for ourselves, some of us have the idea that this year will be better than last. However you decide to celebrate or think of this holiday, it is exciting to welcome a new year nonetheless. A new year means new beginnings, it marks significant milestones such as birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, births, deaths. It reminds us that time is precious and that we won’t all be here forever.

I love the new year, but as I get older I’ve learned to try to live every day like the beginning of a new year. Why wait until new year to set new goals and intentions for ourselves? Why not start today? Every single morning you wake up is a new beginning. It is a new chance to live the life you want and be the person you want to be.

I went into 2018 with this idea in my mind, to live every day like the beginning of the new year. To have the idea that I don’t have to wait until Friday to be happy, that I don’t have to wait until I am older to be successful, that I don’t have to wait until next year to be the person I want to be.

My main goal was to set my energy and focus towards my own happiness and self love. I stopped depending on other people for happiness. I stopped putting energy into relationships that weren’t fulfilling my well being and surrounded myself with the people who appreciate the person I am. I stopped filtering my thoughts and spilled my heart out. I stopped looking to others for validation and approval. I stopped caring about impressing anyone other than myself. I read more and scrolled less. I learned to appreciate my body and my mind for everything they are, instead of what they’re not. I appreciated every single beautiful view and constantly found myself in awe of where I currently was. I danced more than I ever have and jumped head first into every body I saw. I found new talents and hobbies and took on every new opportunity that was given to me.

And eventually, I started to love the energetic, emotional, sensitive, vulnerable, caring person that I’ve always been. Nothing rewarding is ever easy. I had the highest highs and the lowest lows this last year, but my main goal for the new year is to continue to love myself and my life like it is the greatest it ever was.

 

Thank you 2018, for the growth, the adventures, the love, and all of the little moments that I felt 100% genuine happiness. Every year becomes more precious to me than the last, and every year I fall more in love with this life I am living. I can not wait to see what big adventures and happy little moments 2019 brings. ( and how much better the quality improves on my videos thanks to my new camera 🙂 )

A few other goals I have for myself this year:

Don’t take things too personal. Don’t overthink. Eat more vegetables, and less carbs. Do more yoga and push myself into new poses. Visit more beautiful places. Read more books. Document more. Create more. Write more. Let people know that I care about them more often. Say no. Continue to accept the person I’ve become, but keep progressing towards who I want to be.

Happy new year- new month, new week, new day, new hour. Let’s go burn brighter than the sun!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

 

You are not a sad story

Hi friends! It’s been a while since I posted. A WHOLE MONTH. That makes me sad, but it also makes me realize how busy I have been. Between wedding season, Derek being in school full time, the change of seasons, a few changes to family life, and our friend Jessica moving in with us, life has been a little crazy lately.

Somewhere in all of this craziness, I decided to sit down at my computer last week and make this little video as a little reminder of that life is so so good. Just this year, I’ve watched family and friends go through traumatic experiences, broken hearts, losing family members, drug and alcohol abuse, divorce, infertility, eating disorders, unemployment, sexual abuse, anxiety and depression.

Even though I haven’t personally experienced most of the things mentioned above, I still struggle. I’ve had more dark days in the last year than I have had in a very long time. Some of them caused by the growing pains of learning to love the person I am, some of them caused by accepting my sensitivity and emotions, but most of them caused by feeling helpless to my loved ones around me.

We all have dark days, and I wanted to make this little video to remind myself, and whoever else needs it, that life is beautiful. You are not a sad story. You are so much more than your body, your bad thoughts, your trauma, and your experiences. Your life is meant to be lived, to be beautiful, to make you happy and proud. Do whatever it takes to make it that way. And know that I am cheering you on!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

 

Highlights of Summer 2018- Video

To say this summer was the best one yet would be an understatement. I am a winter lover, and am usually stoked when the days get colder and the leaves change color, but this year I was actually sad to see the summer season come to an end.

It was filled with sun burnt skin, care free days, so much adventure, live music, starry nights, and the best people. If I was to think of the perfect summer, I think it would look just like the last few months.

Places I visited:

  • Jaco and La Fortuna, Costa Rica with the greatest travel group
  • Newport Beach, CA with my mom and sisters
  • Yellowstone National Park, Montana/Wyoming with my in laws
  • Preston, Idaho with my in laws
  • Salt Lake City, UT (twice) for the greatest concerts with my best friends
  • Huntington Beach, CA with my non blood related family

Things I accomplished:

  • Got promoted to my dream job position
  • Focused and progressed so much in self love
  • Stopped looking for validation in others
  • Cut off relationships that weren’t helping my self growth

Memories made:

  • There are way too many to list, but I am so glad I captured them all.

So long sweet summer. I’ll remember you forever.

Onto the next adventure, Wren

 

Road trippin’ to Yellowstone-Video

I wasn’t planning on making a video from our road trip to Yellowstone, but as I was going through my footage from this summer,  I realized I had a lot more videos from this trip than I thought I did. And I couldn’t help but want to relive it all. I mean, look at those beautiful views! (The best in laws in the whole world are jut a plus.)

We had so much fun on this trip enjoying each other’s company and making memories. I love this world, I love this country, and I love my Durstelers.

Thanks for watching!

ps- Summer video coming soon!!

Onto the next adventure, Wren

Huntington Beach Circa 2018-Video

Well, I am finally finding time to go through all of my video footage from this summer, and let me just say…WOW. I am blown away by the last few months I’ve been living. The things I’ve experienced, the places I’ve been, the people who have been my side…I am blown away by it all.

Creating these videos just remind me how beautiful this life of mine is. They let me relive the special little moments and hold onto the good memories. And our Huntington Beach trip was filled with little moments and memories that I want to remember forever. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again: I am constantly in awe of this little life I’m living, and I am so glad that I put in the time and effort to capture it all.

More videos coming soon. As always, thanks for watching!

 

Onto the next adventure, Wren

Newport, California Video

I have been quite the busy little lady lately. Between starting my new job position, and leaving town every other weekend- I have hardly had any time for my personal little hobbies. (Like making videos!)

I finally found some time today to finish this one I have been working on since I got home from California last month. And SURPRISE, I am going back there in just two weeks.

Capturing the memories and being able to look back on these moments with my family makes me so happy. Just like blogging, I am not a professional video maker, but I probably won’t ever stop recording and capturing this life I am proud to be living!

 

Thanks for watching!

Onto the next adventure, Wren